February 26, 2006

  • "Your mom tells me you are working two jobs and that you want to go back to school," she said to Robert when he called to let her know that he was getting ready to file for custody.


    "Yeah."


    "Well where does that leave Destiny? Where will she fit in?"


    "I'm working two jobs to make enough money to GET Destiny. Once I have her, I will just work one steady job. And school will allow me to make a better life for us."


    "If it was a few months from now and you had proven yourself," She began. "Maybe then I wouldn't fight you. But right now I'm going to."


    When he hung up the phone he told me about the call. This is the same woman who has been telling me all along that she wants one of the biological parents to have custody, that she doesn't want to raise her grandchild. And now this.


    Damn it. He's 23. He has no savings, and we aren't rich by any means. Yet now, we will have to spend at least a couple thousand dollars to gain custody of a child whose mother has abused her and whose father only wants to love her. 


    At least we know where we stand. At least we know that we need to retain the lawyer up front instead of after the papers are filled.


    At least we know.............

Comments (13)

  • That is tough to deal with....

  • :oops: that's so unfair, but at least you can be prepared!

  • I hate to tell you this but i have been involved(and won both)in 2 custody battles with my 2nd husband when we were trying to get custody of his 4....first one in the mid 80s was about 3000. (we physically got 2 of them and she ran witht he other 2 but we caught up with her finally in the late80's and the cost was closer to 6000....2000 might be a retainer fee but i guarantee you it will be more if she intends to fight.....god i wish yall didnt have go through this ...the stress is going to be unbelievable.....i wish you all the very best and i thank you again for allowing me and others to be a part of this journey.....prayers for you and your family

  • Why? Why would she fight such good intentions?

  • I think she is wrong - He is Destiny's father and he should be with his daughter! She should not make it hard for you

  • Man.  That's tough.  Hang in there and don't give up.  Hugs and prayers.

  • Oh man I wish I could help somehow.  I can contribute a little bit to legal feels if that would help.  Set up a paypal or something so I can send what I can.  I want him to win this one.  He deserves it.  And he needs it.

  • It's always a shame when the courts have to get involved and it can't be sorted out in a civilised manner that will stop Destiny from being [possibly] scarred, and the family from feeling such stress at a time when they only want to feel love. 

    *much love* [because I have nothing else to offer, and words don't always mean anything]

  • I wonder if she's just using a scare tactic?????

  • Knowing doesn't make it suck any less ...  :cry:

  • Good luck. It looks to be a long uphill battle, but you have all faced those before, and you made it! You can do it again for the love of this beautiful child!:sunny:

  • FLAMINREDHEAD IS ABSOLUTLY RIGHT....STILL THINKING ABOUT YOU ALL AND PRAYING FOR YOU!

  • It is disgusting what people will do just for spite. That being said, I truly hope it works out for you and especially for Robert, to give him some focus in his life and show him that sometimes the system does work. :yes:

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