December 6, 2005
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There's no place like home.
There's no place like home.
There's no place like home.
Well,
That is unless you are my son,
my son who has been alone for 18 months,
my son who now wants to come home on Saturday instead of Friday,
my son who suddenly finds it less important to see his family when he walks through those gates than to attend a party and play with his friends at work,
my son who only yesterday appeared to be becoming a man but today appears to be making decisions based on very little except what he wants for himself right this minute.
Every day his little brother reminds me of how many days we have left to wait; every day we talk about how we can help Robert to get his daughter back; every day I think about what we need to do first; every day except today.
Today, instead of "9 days and a wake-up," my son said, "Mom, I'm worried about us not picking Rob up on Friday;" today, instead of talking about Destiny being with her father, we are talking about whether or not we should leave her where she is for now; today, I am still thinking about what we need to do first, but the list has changed, because today my son has once again reminded me of who and what comes first in his life,
and it isn't us.
Comments (20)
what heartbreak! sigh! maybe he'll realize what is important in time this time!!!:hug:
(((HUGS))) Maybe he will change his mind. I'll keep him in my prayers.
i can't even imagine the pain you must go through.
Ouch.
I'm trying to look at it from his perspective.
I know for me I would want to see my family first and foremost. But that is me, and I am much older than your son. But, in my younger years, I would have wanted my friends. I would have needed what I saw as normalcy. A party with friends...how long has it been since he attended a party with friends?
I know this must be horribly painful for you, and of course I think he should be coming home and making plans to get his daughter, making the decisions you and I would make for a straight and narrow path from this point on, but maybe, just maybe...he needs this one thing for himself first.
:hug:
:heartbeat: oooooh... so close and yet.... you are in my thoughts... lurk
He really needs to come home first.....
I hope he realizes this.
OH man. Hopefully he'll change his mind soon. But I wonder if most kids ever really grow up and stop being selfish.
love and light.....t
I am closer to your sons age, so I am trying to think of how I'd be thinking if I were in his position. However, it must be different in males than females, because I can't imagine not wanting to "come home to Mom" first.
Hopefully when he sees you and the rest of his family.....he'll remember again what he's been missing and how lucky he is to have such an incredible Mother.
Many prayers from me for you and your family.
God's blessings,
Liz
perhaps it is easier for him to be with his friends than face coming home? it will be a huge thing, to come home to his family ... i don't know.
*hugs* ... keeping you in my thoughts :heartbeat:
Are you sure that he will really want his daughter back with all the time, all his time, that will have to be devoted to her care and not to partying with his friends? Maybe its what you want him to want because you want it and all of us do too. There is no greater joy than raising your own child, but maybe its too idealistic for him right now and will be too much stress when he needs to see himself succeeding in the world of work. You can say that I don't know anything really, and it would be true, so if I am out of order saying this, you can delete it;
I hope he doesn't forget his loneliness and how he felt when he was in there. I hope that he doesn't just put it behind him. You, and all of the Xangaworld, have anxiously awaited for him to get home. We have cheered you on and we have cried with you through all of this. Please know that you're in my prayers. HUGS!:hearts:
((HUGS)) This is just heartbreaking
How very frustrating. I seem similarities in the way our children think - they are both selfish. One would assume that he would have figured out who stood behind him during his incarceration and who really loves him, but maybe that's too much to hope for? I really don't know. Hugs and prayers my friend.
HUGS to you, that would be hard and you've waited so long.
SavonDuJour: I would never delete such an honest response as this! And you are right, of course. It may be that his desire stems from ours. Although he has said from day one that his goal is to return home, get his daughter, and give her a good life, his actions sometimes say differently. Time will tell.....................
my heart breaks along with yours. :hug:
....your challenge submission had so much bite to it. thank you for writing and for sharing.
Chennia India ... (thank you for asking) ... I hope I don't sound out of place ... but ...I'm a master at screwing things up and then haveing them .. it .. turn out alright ...
thank you for the comment ... hope you don't mind if I return the favor ... your friend ... tw
Hello,
I am sorry, been there myself with my son, hope it gets better.
Peace and Love:)
I have a 24 year-old son and I totally identify with what you are saying. God, how much farther will the knife twist?:whocares:
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