Somedays I don't think he's ready .........
Or maybe he really doesn't want it as much as he proclaims.
His thoughtlessness ...........
His inability to save ..................
His childlike manner ....................
All
Scream at me sometimes
And yet
And yet
I have to believe.
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he needs time to grow up bc while he matured behind bars it's a different kind of maturity needed for the real world and he's delayed right now. he was fairly young when he went in, wasn't he? he's probably still close to that same age maturity wise and emotionally. jail isn't a place where those skills are practiced often. give him time and get him a counselor to help him thru. you knew this would be the hard part. :heartbeat:
I guess it is still kind of soon for us to expect him to be everything he should be. Heck, I know guys a lot older than him, who had never been incarcerated, who can't do any of those things. It's a mindset I think.
Jerjonji and nenragn: Thank you both. Your words help me to sort through my own. This is, indeed, the hardest part! Robert is doing very, very well, and he is trying sooooooo hard. Sometimes I just want him to see everything at once, you know? Part of being a parent, I guess. He will get there. We all will. :yes:
I would have to agree with you all! I think it is just going to take time for him to get into the swing of things. And of course he is still so very young. The responsibility of being a father is awesome, even for Men as old as 40 (I know one). But to have been incarcerated at such a young age, without those "party years" behind him, he's bound to be foolish at times with money, with time.
I believe this is something he wants more than anything, but when you're as young as he is it is sometimes hard to focus on the long term outcome. We tend to live for the moment at that age :nut:. Just continue your faith in him, continue your support, and you'll all be the family your looking forward to. :hug:
he'll get there. he just needs time. and space.
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He should remember how he felt before. He has not been home very long so it will be a huge change again for him. My prayers are with you.
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I know what you mean. How can they parent when they still act like kids themselves? We'll be finding out really really soon.
Perfection takes time. Love and wanting to start taking responsibility is a good, no, a great start.
As hard as it might be, keep believing. :sunny:
Your continued belief in your son as well as your support of and for him are going to be the keys to his growth and maturity. He has a lot of social catching-up to do. So keep on keeping on, Mom. I'll be praying for you all.
When I was a young Mom, I thought I was doing the worst job ever taking care of my son. What really helped was sincere compliments and praise from people. It helped me see beyond what I saw as my inadaquacies and gave me hope that I wasn't the worst parent in the world.
Your son is young and it seems like he is trying. Remember to let him know what a good job he is doing.
Maybe it sounds weird but I'm proud of him that he is stepping up to the plate and taking responsibility for his baby girl!
Sounds like you're describing my husband ... and virtually every other "y-chromosone" I've every known. Don't expect too much too soon. Just be proud of him for trying. I know I am!
xoxo
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